Look around us! Some of us are not performing to our own expectation. Moral is low at some work-place. Then why are we demanding our kids to be the top performers? Why aren't we? Why aren't they?
As I mentioned in my last posting that I look beyond 'grades,' a friend of mine IM-ed me and noted, not all of the children are top performers! Some are struggling to get the perfect grades let alone thriving for knowledge. I agree! Ultimately, we all care about the bottom line, top performance! But, I just wanted us, as a parent, to look beyond or maybe a little closer to why ...
I, too, have faced similar challenges in the past. Pepper, my older one, is a self motivated child (Yes I am very lucky.) She aims high and somehow she always has goals in mind In fact, she has always been a top performer. But, that was not the case with my younger one, Baby Boo. She was in third year, as I recalled. One day, as I almost fainted, she came home with 'D.' Occasionally with 'C.' Fairly inconsistent. Often times when I arrived home from work, she conveniently mentioned that she has forgotten to do her homework. Countless battles were fought. She definitely squeezed my brain out, and putting my patience to the limit . I told her that having C or D is fine with me. (Yes, I meant it!) I told her the problem that I was having with her was her attitude. She simply didn't care. And she clearly didn't try her best! I told her I would have accepted if she has done her best. Seriously, I would! (and my girls know that for the fact.)
For awhile, I thought that she was probably academically challenge until the OLSAT scores revealed otherwise! she is gifted!. Then what went wrong with this picture?!!!
Self motivation! Without it, even a gifted child can perform less than one! In fact, I was told that there are plenty of gifted children that aren't doing well in this world and some parents considered gifted is a curse!
Would you believe me if I tell you that very same girl slept at midnight last nite and the other nite at 1:20 am because she desired to study for her test and finishing up her writing assignment? Despite my advice asking her to wink it out! (I did!) Straight 'A' student, huh? Yes! Neither could I believe it! I feel this part of my journey is like a dream. (Ouch! Just pinched myself ...)
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Self motivation doesn't come easy, but it will with a lot of encouragement and positive enforcement. Each of us is motivated differently, some by prize, some by words of encouragement, and others simply seeing the end results. It is our job, as a parent, to help them identify what motivate them or even what motivate us!
Speaking of which .. I am very motivated! Thanks to your words of encouragement and feedback. Keep them coming. and I will do my part until I am out of breath.
Until next stop,
Journey of Life