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Thursday, October 4, 2012

Are You in Complete Charge of Your Life?

Now that you have made a wish or learned a bit the history behind making a wish tradition, why not come back to reality and ask yourself a question, "Are you in complete charge of your life?" And that was the question that Stuart Fish asked, which marked the very topic of BlogFEST of the day -- 


Interesting question, in fact very inspiring one! Looking back in my life, I am always in complete charge, be in education, relationship, and my family. However ... recently I have discovered that I have been ignoring certain aspect of my life that I need to take charge, caring for my loved ones. I always do --in my own way. I used to spend tons of time with my kids --always available. Ever since they are more independent, I have filled the blank with more activities --mainly with blogging and works. I believe it was couple months ago, looking at both my own mother and my mother-in-law, I felt that time have gone by so fast and yet I have been keeping them waiting. Waiting for my up-close attention, no matter where they are. I am a personable person, meaning if they are in front of me, I am very close to them. Once they are gone, my feeling starting to have distance --not that I don't care but I just don't have enough cycle of my day to reach out to them. 

All of sudden, I felt like this is the part of my life that I would like to take charge now --wanting to spend more time with them, caring for them before it is too late. I don't want to wake up someday regretting that I haven't paying much attention to both my mom and mother-in-law even they are distance away. As much as I dislike talking on the phone, I am making extra efforts to call --reaching to them and chatting with them. And that somehow have made me completely in charge of my life at this very moment. 

Enough about me, how about you? If you could take charge of one aspect of your life right now, what would it be?

Until next stop,
Journey of Life

25 comments:

  1. For me it would be trying to figure out a career. I do realize I *AM* in charge of that, but for some reason it feels so out of my control.

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    1. I totally understand how you feel ...Wish you the best!

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  2. For me it would be trying to figure out a career. I do realize I *AM* in charge of that, but for some reason it feels so out of my control.

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  3. Good question! I guess I would be more organized :)

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  4. If I could change anything...I would probably have difficulty deciding which part of my life to change, in which case I would dawdle so long it would remain the same or change of it's own accord!

    I think...right at this very moment, I would change my (un)employment status. As this is the thing bothering me the most!

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    1. That sound like a great plan to me. Wish you the best!

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  5. I might suggest this happens to most of us as our children age and we begin to identify with the 'moms'. WE will soon be that mom who doesn't get a phone call, a note, a quick visit or even a thought as the days go by. THAT is when we reach out and make the effort to connect with our own parents because we now need to teach our children that this is important. Otherwise, they will treat us the way we have treated our own parents. They learn by example.

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    1. Very true indeed. In my case, I am just doing it because I don't want to look back and regret ...

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  6. This occurred to me recently - I haven't seen my distant relatives since June and some of them since December last year. I've never been particularly close to them, but I still care for them. Unfortunately, there is not enough time, so I can't take charge of that.

    And, I would like to live in a different country (preferably Canada) and if it was under my control, I'd definitely move there as soon as possible. Other than that, maybe take on more extracurricular activities, with a much better schedule than I currently have.

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    1. Sounds like you are in charge! Good luck on your new ventures.

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  7. I can relate to your desire to want to spend more time with them--as my older ones are in their middle teens-- I feel like this close nit family thing we got going on--is going to soon evolve and change and I want to keep it like this as long as I can.

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  8. Thanks for the anniversary wishes yesterday! Hubby and I just got home from 2 nights away at a local vineyard to celebrate and I wanted to thank you for sharing in our happiness.

    I understand how you are feeling about spending time with your mom and MIL. I am struggling with that now, as my folks live far and they are getting older. I spend more time that I used to for those very reasons. I was care giver to my late hubby, then I was the care giver to his mom (MIL) until she passed. I feel a sense of guilt that sometimes my mom had less attention because of my hands being "full" but she is so kind and loving and always tells me to take care of the "older" ones. Now my hubby has an 87 year old dad, and so we are spending more time with him, and my mom is telling me it is ok, and that she raised me to do this. So, I struggle. I am sure you are a blessing to them both.. Just do what you can, and God will take care of the rest.

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    1. That was very sweet getaway for your anniversary. I am so happy for you two.
      Winnie, you are such a darling! Both of your husbands are very lucky guys to have you. And your mom, just like you, very thoughtful.
      Thank you for the advice and I will remember to do my best and leave the rest in HIS hands.

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  9. Good question! I like to think I'm in charge, but sometimes life swings me in directions I don't understand. As far as spending more time with your kids, I can certainly relate. I was always there doing things with my kids when they were little, but now they want to be off with their friends. So like you, I spend more time working. Things change. Embrace the season you're in.

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    1. Yeah ... I guess this is part of circle of life.

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  10. I think it is great that you are taking charge of that aspect of your life. Life passes so quickly and before you know it they will be gone. It is inevitable. I am so glad you are taking advantage of each precious moment.

    Kathy
    http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com

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  11. I love that you are taking charge. Don't take the focus off of what you love, but still care for them in the ways that they need and deserve.

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  12. For so many years it seems that everything and everyone has had charge of me. I would like to break that and take charge of my own life. I would love to finally do something for me. I am trying to break this. :)

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    1. I can see that... you are doing it as we speak :-)

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  13. thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things hop. Sorry I'm a bit slow getting here xo

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  14. I understand how you feel. I feel very similar. I feel like time is going by so fast. There is so much we have to do that there isnt as much time to do what we want to do. I dont want to have all my focus be on my career (although that is where most of my time goes) and not enough on my life. I am trying to slow down a little & smell the roses, but it is very hard

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