The male host was asking this question to the female host this morning, he went like, “How do you feel being treated like a lady?” Before the female host answered, he further explained the reason behind his question was. He was in an elevator with a lady and he was standing closer to the door. As the elevator stopped. this male host stepped back and letting the lady to step out first. "The lady looked at me in this weird look," he said. He then gestured the lady by saying “Lady first.” And guess what the lady did and said? –Hold on to that thought.
He was saying that he is one of those that still does the following –opening door, pulling out chair for ladies. Coincidentally, this morning as I walked into the double door of our office building. I saw one man went in and he was about 50 feet from me or so. As he walked in, he kept the door open waiting for me. I was impressed (as I didn’t expect that since I was still quite a distance away,) and quickened my steps and thanked him for his kind gesture.
I am not sure how others feel, I felt like this gentlemen who has opened the door for me was polite and I really appreciate it. Did he need to do it? Of course not but the fact that he did it, I truly appreciated it.
Now you must be wondering what did the lady did and said. Ready?
She stomped out (angrily) and said, “pleassssseee … what year is this?!” I thought to myself, “Wow! What an interesting reaction.” I am not sure why she reacted that way and I probably will not ever understand. So, I thought I share this with you and perhaps someone would light up my ‘light bulb’ :-)
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what year is this???? man, someone needs to give her an extra cup of coffee.
ReplyDelete:-) Probably that was she needed.
DeleteSuch a funny subject as I like it when men show manners like holding a door for a lady, or letting me walk out of a room first etc. It is one of the qualities that made me notice my hubby. He would always walk around and open my car door on a date, and hold doors for me as well as other ladies. I don't expect it, but like it. I had an instance last week that annoyed me on the subway as two 30 year old men were getting off at the subway with me. One said to the other, aren't you going to let her out first, and the man said "Modern world, modern rules" and pushed ahead of me. It really was disgusting. I wonder if he would push his mother or wife out of the way to get ahead. He was yammering on and on for the entire ride about his $500 shoes, and just seemed so self absorbed. Made me sad at this display. If this is the modern world, I don't like it.
ReplyDeleteWhen a man shows that kind gesture, it always does it to me. You are absolutely correct, if they don't even bother with this little gestures --you always wonder how they would take care of their loved ones.
DeleteAnd the last thing that we, as women, want to do it to kill that gesture.
Well, I can't pass this one up! I'm an older person, so I was brought up with certain rules of civility. There is a difference between being rude and being patronizing. Holding the door for somebody is not patronizing and the way the woman reacted simply shows she has a chip on her shoulder. How about one man holding the door for another man who, for example, has his arm in a sling or is carrying a load of books? Should that man be insulted and turn around and hit the polite one with his cast or a copy of Webster's dictionary? In my novel "The Termite Queen" my hero is polite in this old-fashioned way even though it's the 30th century. My heroine doesn't expect to have her chair pulled out for her, but she finds this old-fashioned behavior part of Griffen's charm. Or maybe I should have had Griffen pull the chair out from under her and then laugh with adolescent glee as she landed on her duff.
ReplyDeleteI am with you --old fashioned and definitely appreciate how gentlemen treat women.
DeleteSounds like your book is a fun and must read book and thank you for the insight.
I feel her attitude was completely unnecessary. The man was a wonderful gentleman. I'm ever so grateful when someone is courteous and polite in such a manner, and I believe most women would be too. (:
ReplyDeleteThank you Larissa. I hope that radio host didn't get discouraged next time when he wants to be a gentlemen.
DeleteFunny cartoon! I like when men hold the door open and allow women to pass first. I think that woman's comment was rude!
ReplyDeleteYes, I too enjoy that privilege. I know! She should have thanked the gentlemen regardless how she felt whether it was necessary or not.
DeleteOh dear. Maybe we are living in a sad world.
ReplyDeleteA very thought provoking post! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Adelia, fortunately only a few would do such.
Deletecall me old fashioned. But I do believe in manners, and part of that is being a gentleman; I'm teaching my boys now that ladies go first. After all, let's face it. when the days work is done, we've done it all. from full time jobs to making shopping lists and remembering all the little stuff. Call me sexist but I think that's true.
ReplyDeleteI also would not bare my boobs in public which seems to be popular now since it's evidently not against the law.
In the future, some girls would be very fortunate to have your boys!
DeleteYes, I am a very old-fashioned in that way.