tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7786112280005647188.post5591911945586411570..comments2023-03-25T05:49:46.499-07:00Comments on Journey of Life: Growing together or apart …Journey of Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14814279353807130008noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7786112280005647188.post-64464423252014191672011-12-09T09:29:30.057-08:002011-12-09T09:29:30.057-08:00Totally agree with you on both counts, "Once ...Totally agree with you on both counts, "Once an event, no matter how small, intervenes, the situation cannot ever be "just like it was before.<br />" and "Forgiveness is not forgetting."Journey of Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14814279353807130008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7786112280005647188.post-22394865346662980652011-12-09T08:51:21.685-08:002011-12-09T08:51:21.685-08:00Interesting. Though I disagree with the idea of &...Interesting. Though I disagree with the idea of "fate" or "destiny" (I do not believe our lives are spelt out like instructions being fed into some sort of cosmic Turing machine - we make choices, some large and some small, and those choices rather than forces beyond our control result in the life we wind up with), your proposition still stands quite well.<br /><br />There is a couple of forces at play in what you describe - one endogenous and the other exogenous.<br /><br />In the case of "growing apart," the force is inherent in our relationships. Whether with friends, children, or spouses, these relationships obviously take work to maintain, and we neglect them at our peril. It's all too easy as we triage the challenges of daily life to take for granted that our partner or friend will "be there" and "understand" if we let our grip on the tether weaken, however slightly. Sometimes, this is impossible not to do. As you say, though, priorities, priorities, priorities. Pay attention to those you care about; take the time to acknowledge them and what they mean to your life. <br /><br />You can get another job.<br /><br />As to the "third wheel," (the exogenous variable, if you will), you're also right - that person or temptation cannot "get in" unless you let them. Put simply, the Devil cannot make you do something you're unwilling to do of your own choice.<br /><br />One small caveat, though. Once an event, no matter how small, intervenes, the situation cannot ever be "just like it was before." A patched-together broken dish, no matter how skilfully repaired, is still a fixed dish. It's a lesson we are (trying) to teach our son - it's possible to "fix" something you've broken, but it is always better to take care not to break it in the first place.<br /><br />Forgiveness is not forgetting.<br /><br />Happy Friday.DWBuddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12955276932812880108noreply@blogger.com